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– By Sharon Ashton and Raksha Dave-Gates (Counselling Psychologists) Now that Spring is at the doorstep, it’s a great time to tackle tuning-up tasks.  How about adding a diagnostic scan of the most important relationships in your life?  The positive payoff for doing this checkup regularly can be huge since relationship has the potential to be an extraordinary source of renewal, sustenance, and joy.  At the other end of the spectrum, without due care and attention, relationships can become unbelievably

– By Sharon Ashton and Raksha Dave-Gates (Counselling Psychologists) Aristotle said, “anyone can become angry – that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time,for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is noteasy”. In our practice, we have observed that when one person in ahousehold is angry, there are inevitably others who also become angry – anger iscatchy!  Examining your anger style, your predictable and repeated way

– By Sharon Ashton and Raksha Dave-Gates (Counselling Psychologists) The primary task of every civilization is to teach the young men to be fathers. – Margaret Mead Our celebrations of Father’s Day this month and of Mother’s Day in May are evidence of the high value that our society places on the importance of family. When wescan the racks of greeting cards for these two occasions, we see examples of what it means in our culture to be a good

– By Sharon Ashton and Raksha Dave-Gates (Counselling Psychologists) Just thinking of summer holidays can raise a range of feelings – joyful anticipation, anxiety, even panic. Filled with expectations and hopes, summe ris a time of transition for all family members. Summer may mean that you have to plan engaging activities for young children, that you have (or are) a college-student returning home for the summer break, or that you are awaiting less work and more time with family and

– By Sharon Ashton and Raksha Dave-Gates (Counselling Psychologists) Recently as I traveled toward downtown Calgary through a series of construction zones, I thought about how traffic signs and signals, rules of the road, motorist courtesy, and road condition, all work together to determine the ease of a commute. It seemed to me that when all of these factors are optimal, traveling in the city is a breeze. When one or more of these factors fail, stress levels tend to

– By Sharon Ashton and Raksha Dave-Gates (Counselling Psychologists) As summer ends, many families confront the daunting task of reestablishing family routines, particularly, sleep routines. Hot summer nights, longer daylight hours, and reduced time urgencies often disrupt sleep routines as adults and children alike often stay up later. Sleep is an instrumental need – people can go longer without food than sleep. Although we all need sleep, the amount of sleep needed varies based on genetics,circadian rhythm, and developmental life

– By Sharon Ashton and Raksha Dave-Gates (Counselling Psychologists) “Good fences make good neighbors.” Robert Frost One of my friends recently explained how much she values good communication in the workplace because it enables her to perform her job in the most professional way. She has a manager who is “frank” about his expectations yet is considerate in his manner of expressing himself. Her comments suggest that a healthy dynamic exists between her employer and herself and a climate of

– By Sharon Ashton and Raksha Dave-Gates (Counselling Psychologists) Fitting in can be a tremendous pressure whether you are five, fifteen, or an adult. As social beings, we tend to form groups and hierarchies. Whether we like it or not, these groups or cliques begin early and with them, come lessons about friendship, support, power and privilege, and rejection and isolation. Rosalind Wiseman, in herbook, Queen bees & Wannabes, helps us to enter the social world of our children –

– By Sharon Ashton and Raksha Dave-Gates (Counselling Psychologists) Once again, it’s December! We are already beginning to feel the effect of the hustle and bustle of this holiday season. Many of us step into this month with some trepidation, knowing that it will be difficult to keep balance in our time, energy, and finances as we take in the traditions that mark this time of the year. We bring with us the hope that somehow we’ll capture some of